Laura Carr
Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.
― Rumi
Laura Carr, LMFT
*Only telehealth appointments available
Hello! I have been a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 2001. I have extensive experience working with individuals, adolescents, couples and families who desire to enrich their lives through the personal relationships they have with themselves and others.
It takes a tremendous amount of courage and strength to reach out when you are struggling. To be human is to understand that in life “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” Sadly, most people who experience suffering don’t know there is another option. Suffering takes many forms such as anxiety, depression, addictions, low self esteem (aka self-hate), lack of self care, feeling easily overwhelmed, sabotage, aggression, self-harm, emotional detachment from others, just to name a few...all of which are primarily a disconnection with oneself.
Individuals have a multilayered, often rigid, belief system and are commonly unaware of how these beliefs shape and define their world. Beliefs directly influence one’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors. In our sessions, you will learn how this whole process works. You might have intellectual knowledge of it, but having someone who is not in your experience helps illuminate all those areas that are in your blindspot.
You will learn how to practice awareness (awake/conscious) of your internal experience. Being aware leads to being at choice. As we explore your life experiences, we will identify your disabling beliefs, and you can learn the skills necessary to bring about the changes you desire. These skills will allow you to be with yourself as you are experiencing the painful experiences that naturally occur in life, thus allowing you to let go of the maladaptive behaviors that lead to suffering.
Many people have experienced trauma/s in their past that are connected directly to their current struggles. Traumas come in all types of experiences and we do not compare trauma. We will gently and safely explore these at your pace. We do not go digging for things that aren’t showing up. My bias is that what needs to be witnessed will reveal itself. We can trust the process.
What you learn about yourself in therapy directly impacts your relationships. In couples sessions, I use the visual of turning the microscope on yourself so each partner becomes 100% responsible for their own role. We are co-creators of our relationships, and the relationship can only be as healthy as each of its parts. In couples therapy each person will learn about their own individual dynamics and how it impacts the relationship. Couples will learn specific techniques that allow for resolution and intimacy. Our choices will either bring us closer together or push us further apart.
I have been with the love of my life, Daniel Carr, since 1998 and we have 2 amazing sons, 2 dogs full of personality and a cantankerous and loyal 21 year old cat and a few fish too. Parenting has brought a myriad of emotions to my life that I never imagined; deep joy, complete frustration, awe, laughter, tears, exasperation, exhilaration and, overall, many opportunities for growth. When time allows, I enjoy travel, listening to music, reading, watching movies, exercise, going on spiritual retreats and spending time with dear friends.
*Only telehealth appointments available
Reach out to me by phone: (619) 300-2124 or email: laura@cfmrsandiego.com
LMFT # 38400
Fee Range Per Session:
Individual: $210
Couples: $240